Made it through the Thanksgiving holidays with NO drinking!! Only one day, last Friday, did I get down because I wanted to drink. I told myself it was no big deal, the itch/urge would pass and it did.
I keep re-reading back over my blog, to all those entries where I said how awful I felt, how I needed to get sober for good, how alcohol was no good for me and the reasons why and YET I still miss drinking. I simply don't want to not miss it anymore.
I know (okay, for now, I'm hoping) that day will come, if I hold-on to not giving into drinking now.
One thing I know for sure, tomorrow is another new day. Tomorrow I may miss drinking just a little less than today. Tomorrow I may get my groove back.
Personally speaking, I think you have gotten your groove back by quitting. You probably won't miss it for awhile, That's the nature of the beast. Keep going and I will fully catch on your trail someday. Had a normal Tgiving tho.....for me it's the at home alone (with hubs) time that is a challenge, not out with family or friends, sigh. Hugs!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Habit! Nice to hear you had a normal, (and assume, nice) Thanksgiving. When you are ready, you'll jump on this trail with me! All in good time.
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ReplyDeleteI’m 3 months and I miss drinking on ocassion for sure. I loved drinking it was part of my identity. But it’s time was up and that meant going through some tough times. Many here say it and it’s true , the tough times do diminish and the fantastic benefits increase. Hope the groove returns and you are doing well at one of the toughest things there is! 👍🏻🙂
Jim, I've gone close to 100 days no drinking, and can agree there were some great benefits, but somehow the call to drink was stronger than the need to stay 100% sober. This is one of the toughest things I've attempted, and am attempting to see through to success. Thanks for pushing me along!
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ReplyDeleteI can’t comment on your blog except my iPad! Makes me mad, because it’s hard to write better responses! Grrrr
There are still times I miss alcohol. It is normal.
The holidays are difficult to be sure, for lots of sober people!
I was the only one not drinking at a Thanksgiving, besides hubs and the babies! lol
I didn’t miss it this time, but I was glad to leave after 4 hours.
Allow yourself to pout a bit, even throw a tantrum.
Just don’t believe the voice the says life is better drinking. It’s not as far as I can see in my life!
Hugs!
Wendy
Sorry Wendy, I'm learning this platform isn't as easy to find or use as compared to others, bit of a bummer. I will have faith and make myself ignore "that voice" which says drinking is better, etc. You, along with many others, have proved it! Thanks for all you share with me, you are the best!! xo
DeleteMy alcoholic husband was told that, if you are told not to think of a black cat, you will inevitably think of a black cat. So with alcohol. If you consciously try not to think about it or to live without it, you will miss it. Instead, when those thoughts of drinking arise, try to distract yourself by keeping busy and doing something. Go for a walk, do some exercise, go to the cinema or a day trip somewhere. You will be so busy enjoying whatever you do, that the thoughts of drinking will pass.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice; I did just that this past Sunday. It was 4pm, I was going to make Mexican chicken soup and the craving for a glass of wine while I cooked came over me something fierce! So I grabbed my purse, when to Goodwill (second-hand shop) to look for a scented candle. Then headed to the grocery store for some extra serrano peppers for the soup. Once I got home a hour and half later, the craving had past. My husband asked, "where did you go?". I told him what I was feeling and what I did, and that I couldn't even bother to go find him in tell him what I was doing. He understood. He knows how hard this is for me, and agreed that was a good thing to do. Next time, let him know so he doesn't wonder and/or worry about me. Which is the right thing to do, of course, it's just that moment in the kitchen was so intense, I left.
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